1. She's Just Not Worth Your Pretty If She's Not Including You

It's amazing, this friendship thing. The excitement of finding someone who thinks like you, who makes you laugh, who understands your weird sense of humor. And, as with most, if not all, new things, we women want to do one thing: show it off! Just think about it and you'll see that it's true. Just got your hair done? You're gonna go out that night. Found that dress that makes your boobs look huge and your ass look great? Head straight to the mall for a "walk" and then to the club! It's natural for us to want to show off our new things and that holds true for friends, too.

It goes beyond wanting to introduce this new friend to the other friends: it's a simple fact of, "See? She's MY new friend, I found her first! Isn't she great?" It sounds bitchy and petty but that's just the way we women work. I can't explain why and I'm not about to go changing the rules that have been around longer than I have.

Now, see when your new friend doesn't want to bring you around to meet her other friends, there's a problem. It's natural for her to want to show you off and you are amazing, so why not? If she likes you then she'll want to share you with her friends let you be a part of her inner circle.


The "But I'm Afraid My Other Friends Won't Like You" Excuse

If she tells you this, I have one thing to say to you: never talk to this girl again! She's basically telling you that you are not good enough to be friends with and that she's ashamed of you. No one needs that, no one deserves that. Even if her other friends wouldn't or don't like you, she'd make an effort to include you so as to tell her other friends that you are important to her and they need to either shut up, try to get along with you, or just play nice.


The "You Might Not Like Them" Excuse

Another way of saying that she's ashamed, this time not of you but of her other friends. This should be a warning sign for two main reasons:
a) she treats her other friends like shit, an omen that you may one day be treated like that, and
b) she thinks you won't make an effort to get along with her friends.
You wouldn't assume a person's standards because you can't read minds. So it's not right that she should presume that you wouldn't like the people she hangs out with. She's hanging out with you, isn't she? And as for b, it's an insult to think that you'd purposefully act rudely in front of her friends. What kind of person does she think you are?!? So ditch this bitch and move on!


The "You Wouldn't Like What We're Doing" Excuse

Oh, please. You are a better person than that and you should be able to see through this excuse like plastic wrap. Even if they were going to do something you don't particularly enjoy, you'd obviously make an effort to try, for the sake of your new friend. So for her to assume that you would pout and be sourfaced the while night is an insult to your social skills and social intelligence.


The "I Don't Want You To Feel Awkward" Excuse

Let's face it: for 90% of us meeting new people is awkward. The stiff pauses, stunted conversation, the cold tension before the ice is truly broken can be tough, even tougher when the ice only cracks and doesn't break through. But it is the, what I like to call, host-friend's duty and responsibility to ease those awkward moments and help you be comfortable. If she's not willing to make that effort then she isn't worth you time, your effort, or your pretty.


It's so simple! You, the amazing chick reading this, are, well, amazing! You need to spread this amazing, share your specialness (and I'm not talking about the 'quit-eating-the-glue' special) with people who are like you and who have a specialness that they could share that complements your own. If your new friend doesn't realize this and recognize this then she's just not worth your pretty.

It's hard because we want to see and believe the best in people, especially friends, and even more so new friends. Of course there's that allure of being unknown and mysterious but that wears off quick, and I mean quick. Eventually we want to be known and recognized for the great person that we are and if someone denies us this, we're apt to believe whatever excuse they give us and blame ourselves for being 'needy' and 'clingy'
Another reason why exlusion can drive us crazy is jealousy. If she's constantly talking about how great her other friends are, telling you all the great parties and adventures you're not a part of, then the little green monster named Jelousy might tell you that you're not good enough to be a part of her group. But he's wrong: you're better than her and all her friends because they'd be crazy not to have a funny, charming, and quirky girl like you around!