6. She's Just Not Worth Your Pretty If She Doesn't Like Your Man (Without Trying)

Boys: stupid yet stimulating, insufferable yet insatiable, and be damned if our world doesn't revolve around them. More than half our conversational subjects include boys, from how to snag one to how to train them. They're a healthy part of a friendship because they give us something to talk about.
It's normal if your best friend and your boyfriend don't get along: they both love you and want what's best for you and sometimes those opinions may oppose. But there will (at least there should) come a point where both of them will agree that their dislike for each other is trumped for their love for you. They will (again, should) try to co-exist peacefully for your sake, so you'd never be forced to choose between them.
Alas, this isn't always the case. I found that the bestie can feel left out when a boo comes into the picture, especially if said bestie is single herself. But if she doesn't try to make an effort to like him, to be nice to him when he's around and to keep the trash talk at a minimum, the she just ain't worth your pretty.


The "He's Not Good Enough For You" Excuse

She's worried. He has a tendency to act a little aloof when company's around. He seems cold and closed off. He can be immature at the worst possible times. He acts like a flirt. She sees all that and more and she tells you every time the opportunity arises. After awhile it gets pretty annoying so it's either she's right or she should have some faith in the decisions you make. If she is right, though, she will still make the effort to point out his good parts, to get along with him, to include him so as to try to see past her convictions. If she doesn't than she's judgemental, a bitch, and not worth your pretty.


The "He Doesn't Like Me So Why Should I Like Him" Excuse

It doesn't matter if he acts like a dick whenever your best friend is present. Okay, well, it does, but if there's one thing I've learned about men is that they are set in their ways and not always apt to change. But if she uses that as her excuse to act like a bitch towards and about him, then she's more than likely just a bitch in general. And we all know the rule about bitches: they're not worth your pretty.


The "There's So Many Things Wrong With Him" Excuse

If your best friend finds a problem with every small, miniscule flaw your boyfriend has, take this as a big warning sign. There are two main reasons that indicate that this is toxic behavior:
1) she is picky. While good for eyeing out the latest handbags and matching shoes, not good if she brings this trait over to discerning people; and
2) she's jealous and she can't talk to you about it.
If your girl can't let go of the fact that he is always munching on strawberry Mentos or he named his car, then she's not looking at the bigger picture, aka your happiness. So while she's obsessing over the fact that he wears socks with sandals, let herobsess over why she's just not worth your pretty.


It's so simple! She rags on the boyfriend means that she's a bad and bitchy friend! Okay, so it's not actually that simple. See, if she rags on him all the time or if she voices her opinions without and concern or regard for you and your feelings then that's when you know she's bad and she's bitchy. But if she takes you aside and says, "Hey, I think there's something sketchy about this dude," then maybe it might be a good idea to listen to her. But if it's always, "He's so dumb, he's an idiot, I bet he can't even spell neanderthal," without any warning then maybe it's not the boyfriend that needs the boot.

This can be hard, and I mean hard, because no one wants to be put into the position where they may have to choose between Boyfriend and Best Friend. In the perfect world, they would get along with each other and be friends themselves. That isn't always the case. Jealousies, hurt feelings, mixed signals all get in the way of that perfect picture. And picking out whether your best friend is watching out for you or being toxic is even harder because, let's face it, sex and having a man are pretty damn great and no one likes being proved wrong. So, before you boot anyone, think long and hard and decide whether He's Just Not That Into You or if She's Just Not Worth Your Pretty.