You don't get to choose your family, but you do get to choose your friends. Thank God for that, right? And I can speak from experience when I say that my family drives me freaking insane, up the wall, batshit crazy. You don't always like them but you always love them. Your friends, on the other hand, could hate your family with a passion; hell, that's probably one of the reasons why you two became best friends in the first place! But whether she likes your family or not, it's the fact of does she respect them and treat them fairly when they're around and when they're not.
It's nice to commiserate about how sucky your family is, comparing their embarrassing moments with someone else, knowing that you're not alone in the department of Bloodline Dysfunction. But when all she's doing to ragging on your family, especially when you didn't start that conversation, then there's something wrong with her and she's not worth your (or your family's) pretty.
The "Her Family Is Perfect" Excuse
Whose family isn't a total puddle of bog water sometimes? And, when said family is starting tto stink more than usual, it's always nice to have your best friend to help you through it. But if she insists that her family is perfect, that they never giver her anything to complain about then she's not being honest with you. And if, in addition to insisting that her family is picture perfect, she's ragging on your family, then she's got some issues.
The "Her Family Is So Much Worse" Excuse
It is not a competition to see who's mother puts who through the most torture. It's all about getting through said torture together and in whole pieces. But if she starts making it a competition to see why her father is more of an embarrassment than yours, then she needs to see that she just ain't worth your pretty (and your dysfunct family's pretty, too).
The "My Family Treats Her Like Crap" Excuse
Just because your family may not be nice enough to treat her well doesn't give her the liberty to act the same. You want you best friend to be mature enough to be the bigger person, not to stoop to the level of not even going to your house lest she run into your live-in aunt who constantly berates her hairstyles and choice in clothing. But if she's being petty to your family, who's to say that she won't suddenly turn on you and the family you make for yourself in the future? In other words, she's not worth the risk or the pretty.
It's so simple! If she takes out all her bitch on your family, then there is something wrong!
Let's now delve into why this can get hard: if you do find that your family and your best friend are at odds with each other, sooner or later they're going to make you choose. And, either way you swing, the other side is going to feel hurt, betrayed, and let down. BE CAREFUL! Choose wisely and know that you're family is always going to be there (not necessarily for you, but they'll most of the time just 'be') and, if you're best friend really is worth your pretty, so will she, no matter what you choose.
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